So, you’ve just got engaged (YAY!), and you’re over the moon excited about
a) the prospect of being married to your lovely fella; and
b) planning THE best day of your life!
But hang on – you only get one shot at this, and you want to do it right. You want it to be amazing, and whether you’re the first of your friends to tie the knot or you’ve spent the last few years eating cake and toasting the happy couple every weekend in July for your besties, any and all advice on how to plan your wedding would be gratefully received!
So what do the professionals say? We spoke with a few of our friends within the wedding industry to establish the top tips they’ve discovered over the many years they’ve worked on weddings and events – take a read and take note…
“Your day, your way”
In the early stages it’s really crucial to establish what’s important to you as a couple. It’s hard to tune opinions out, but the most important opinion is yours. Jo, owner of White Rose Cake Design, advises you should “Have whatever you want, not what parents/friends/etc think you should have. Your day, your way”. “Here here” Jo – we couldn’t agree more! You will never regret creating a day catered specifically for you and your other half, but you might just find you regret compromising on what you love in order to people please family and friends.
Similarly, Louise of Fox Tail Photography suggests “Not to follow traditions just because that’s what everyone else does and expects.” If you hate the idea of slow dancing in front of all your friends and family then why do it? Just because something is traditional doesn’t mean it’s a necessity! Mix things up and do as you wish – mosh out to heavy metal, shake your thing to a bit of Beyonce, or (shock horror!) don’t do a first dance at all! Replace traditions that you’re not comfortable with with something more unique or tailored to the two of you as a couple.
Many hands make light work
We’ve all heard the phrase ‘Bride Tribe’ being thrown around with regards to the squad of bridesmaids and friends surrounding and supporting the Bride before the big day, but what about the Bride tribe behind the scenes?! Your suppliers are ready and waiting to help you out and any wedding industry professional worth their salt will want the best for the couples they are privileged to work for. Claire, owner of Sweet Sugar Sixpence recommends you should “Trust your suppliers and ask them for recommendations – a team of suppliers that know and support each other will always give you the best wedding!”
The wedding industry is quite a close knit community. We’re all willing to make suggestions and recommendations of suppliers we believe are suited to you. We don’t take recommendations lightly though – we know our suggestions reflect on us and so we’d never recommend anyone we think our clients would either not get along with or who we wouldn’t trust to do an amazing job!
In a similar vein, I would always suggest lightening the work load by accepting the help of anyone offering it! DIY is great, but so is delegation. Brides and Grooms are always so much more relaxed when they let friends, family and suppliers share the work load rather than trying to do everything on their own. Anything that can relieve the stress of planning such an important day is worth doing, and realistically, what’s the worst that can happen if you pass over a little control? Even if the decorations are the wrong colour, you didn’t make enough favours, or the homemade wedding cake collapses, it’s about the marriage you’re entering into with the person you love – that’s the main thing!
A variation on a theme
When it comes to styling we’re all guilty of creating extensive Pinterest boards filled with images of the ‘perfect’ wedding. But if every wedding was a recreation of those beautiful images, then they’d all be a carbon copy of the rest! Stylist and stationer Suzanne, owner of Suzanne Oddy Design, recommends you “Tap into your stylist’s creativity. They’ve seen the same things as you on Pinterest. Share your ideas with them and watch them grow and develop into something unique to you and your venue.” No one wants a copy and paste wedding. So why not take those images you’ve found, show them to your suppliers, and trust their knowledge and judgement as they help you develop the idea!
When you sign on the dotted line to secure a date with your venue you assume it will look on your wedding day as it did when you initially visited for a viewing. However, this isn’t necessarily the case! Venues, as with any business, are always looking to develop and improve, and sometimes this will include changing the aesthetic of the venue. Lucy, commercial director of Mix & Twist Bartending suggests you “check if they are planning any work to the building/area before your wedding, or if prices are likely to change and by what percentage if they do.” Unwanted surprises can be easily avoided, and although you might feel the venue has a duty to inform you of any cosmetic changes, if it’s not in the fine print then they may not. Make sure the venue you saw and fell in love with is the venue you’ll be saying ‘I Do’ in on the big day!
Quite frankly us wedding industry professionals could talk all day about the things we’ve learnt along the way and the advice we’d love to give to each and every one of you. The advice above really is just the tip of the iceberg. But we’ll close with a top tip from Mode for… Events’ very own Managing Director, Tabby, who advises you should “Enjoy the whole process and stay relaxed and stress free” – some would say that hiring a wedding planner might help with that…
PS: If you want to go DIY for your wedding, remember we offer a DIY Consulting Service, so you can hire us for a couple of hours to coach you in how to create and manage your own amazing wedding, giving you inside tips and hints.