Getting Honest About Your wedding…

Getting Honest About Your wedding… A quick look at some areas of your wedding you need to be honest with from Pinterest to Budgets and Family

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One of the most valuable things we can be is honest but, being honest with ourselves is tricky and this is especially true when it comes to our own wedding.

Therefore, it’s time to get honest, realistic and believe in your own integrity when it comes to planning your wedding.

Let me break it down a little into three key areas, in no particular order (and btw… there are plenty more things you can get honest about, not just these! Don’t even start me on children at weddings and traditions such as cake cutting and first dances!)…

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Firstly, whilst I love Pinterest for inspiration and general nosiness, get off it when making your final planning decisions for your wedding. Get your own wedding and stop stealing someone else’s! Be honest with yourself and ask yourself what YOU and YOUR partner really want. Don’t just copy someone else’s wedding or ideas that some professionals put together for a styled shoot. These images are there to be inspiration for you and not for you to carbon copy. So, close your eyes, imagine your big day… what does it look like? Honestly? Now create this vision.

Budget

Yep, the big ‘taboo’ that you need to be really honest about because quite simply, starting married life in debt purely from a party you were paying for where everyone else ate and drank sucks! So, be realistic and honest. Pick your budget truthfully and stick to it. You can have the most amazing wedding on a small budget. These big fancy expensive weddings do not make you any happier in married life than an elopement and quiet dinner with just the two of you.

Small budget does not mean missing out. It’s an opportunity to get wise and savvy financially and produce a wedding which is the truest reflection of you both as a couple with the people you love most around you. Which brings me on to my third point…

Family

Get really brutally honest here. If you don’t like them, don’t see them and have nothing to do with them, why would you invite them? Especially if it was at the detriment of a friend who has shared so much with you or quite simply just makes you laugh and you want them at your party? Being related does not give people the right to expect an invitation to your wedding. Now, I’m not suggesting a lack of sensitivity and being mean in not inviting family members but remember this is your wedding and you get to choose who you share it with. You could always do a separate informal family party to invite them all if you have heaps of family but actually want some friends at your wedding. You must be honest to yourselves and do exactly what you feel comfortable with. Don’t think you are at the mercy of any historic traditions and protocols; you’re not. This is about the two of you and by the way, just because someone contributes to funding your wedding does not give them the right to dictate your guest list. Be calm, compromise but be honest about your feelings and be empowered to take control of your wedding.

Tabby xxx

A Little Look Behind the Wedding Scenes

Taking you behind the scenes of one of our fabulous weddings with pictures and words

I love it when you see all the official pictures from a wedding or event and some of the photographers we get to work with are absolutely fabulous, like Georgia from Happily Ever Captured who photographed the wedding of Nicola and Neil Briscoe back in June at The Arches @ Dean Clough, who gave us these beauties.

I loved the wedding of Nicola and Neil and, as well as our usual planning and coordination duties, I also supplied all the floristry and styling, collaborating with one of my faves, Catherine from The Mindful Florist.

Most of all I loved Nicola and Neil; what an amazing couple with gorgeous children and fab family and friends, and when you get to really know a couple and trust each other, it allows you the opportunity to really be a part of everything and have ‘access all areas.’

That’s why, for a little change to the usual wedding blog, I thought I’d give you a photographic glimpse of ‘behind the scenes’ at a wedding, using the wedding of Nicola and Neil as an example.

As a wedding planner and/or coordinator you get to experience every part of a wedding; from fixing bridal underwear, dressing people, sewing up dresses, tying ties, pinning buttonholes, meeting and greeting guests, being the ‘fixer’ and ‘go to’ person, checking the behind the scenes in the kitchen and so much more, and for every ‘official’ photo you see of a wedding there is so much that goes on behind the scenes to make that shot happen.

Prior to the ceremony and once Nicola was changed there was a calm 20 mins of Georgia taking photos of Nicola and her two gorgeous flower girls…The official photos are beautiful, like this one of Nicola and her daughter Hollie….

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…. Calm, serene and moving… but check out all the behind the scenes shots and actions of plenty of people, including the amazing Cheryl Walker-Askew creating fabulous hair magic, to make sure children (and adults!) are neat and tidy, smiling and interested etc etc….

…. The flowers for the wedding were an amazing array of purples, greys, greens and whites and I always love getting together with Catherine from The Mindful Florist to work (it’s a great chat aside from the wonderful creative session it is!). The finished bouquets and floral displays were superb and even made Nicola shed a tear…..

…. Luckily, for once, the day of preparing the flowers was a nice sunny one so we got to play with floral loveliness outside….

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The food at The Arches @ Dean Clough crafted and delivered by the fabulous Eat Me – Drink Me always looks and tastes divine thanks to owner and Head Chef Tony and all his team…

….. but it takes a whole lot of active, creative and experienced people to get food this good….

…. and whilst the guests are happily eating, your suppliers, such as photographers and videographers, are busy getting all the important detail shots to make their work complete….

But remember, when you see the victorious and romantic pictures of first dances like this one…

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…. there’s every chance that cheer and laughter is not out of sheer joy of being newly married, but in fact due to a fire alarm triggering just at the moment you enter the dancefloor, leading to this…

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… you just never know! (thanks to the amazing Fire team always on hand and keeping us all safe).

…. and me? Well, on my weddings I’m everywhere, seeing it all, taking it all in and making sure everything runs smoothly to make a fabulous relaxed and memorable day for my couples….

…. Oh, and grabbing a sneaky selfie with the bride and groom!

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Much Love.

Tabby xxx

 

 

Bridesmaids and BBQs

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The wedding of Antonia and Sam in early June at Hargate Hall was a wedding with a difference for sure.

With plans to marry on the day in Bakewell with close family before a celebration ceremony at Hargate Hall for all the guests, things quickly changed in the preceding weeks when our gorgeous bride Antonia, who is from the USA, encountered Visa issues, so the couple and their close family nipped to New York to get married!

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So, with the official business out the way, it left us to organise a fabulous outdoor ceremony (even with the rain!) led by a friend before a relaxed BBQ style meal in the marquee and a night of music and dancing in the house.

This was a marriage of two amazing families and everyone chipped in getting things prepared under the watchful eye of Tabby and Sam’s mum Maura. The family created amazing floral displays and the marquee looked fabulous.

There was a huge bridal party with a selection of amazing gowns, a super-sized wedding cake hand-painted by Antonia’s mum (plus some special jiggery-pokery with fishing wire to keep the cake stand suspended!) and a relaxed atmosphere created by the many American and English guests.

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It truly was a great wedding and as the guests sat down to a feast of BBQ specialities such as brisket, chicken wings and pit beans, there was an air of happiness and contentment.

This was one fabulous and happy wedding.

Congratulations to Antonia and Sam and thanks for letting us be a part of your amazing wedding.

Tabby xxx

Get the wedding!

Venue: Hargate Hall

Planning & Coordination: Mode for…Events

Food: Mode for…Events in collaboration with Sons of the North

 

Chic, Elegant and Oozing with Ambience

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Chic, elegant and oozing with ambience – Maddie and Asa’s wedding will definitely go down in The Arches history books!

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The May bank holiday saw The Arches play host to the most weddings we’ve ever held in the space of three days, and we were astounded by how intrinsically unique they all were. If there’s one thing that never ceases to amaze The Arches team it’s how each couple interpret the space differently, making each event unlike the one before.

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Maddie and Asa saw the potential The Arches held from the moment they first walked through the door, and from the seed of potential grew the grandest of plans to transform the space into a botanical candlelit wonderland. They knew from the off that they wanted a stunning floral arrangement to take centre stage at the base of their aisle, they knew they didn’t want a traditional archway, and they knew they needed someone they wholeheartedly trusted to turn their ideas into a reality! Enter Fiona Pickles of Firenza Floral Design armed with the brief “Surprise us!” And what a surprise it was to witness the transformation of the ceremony area…

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Fiona’s creations are always individual, one off designs; using the treasures of her own garden (along with some from other English growers) the floral installation created at the base of the aisle was truly breath-taking and helped set the perfect tone for the wedding. With assistance from the lovely ladies at Moss & Stone, and Fox & Thorn Floral Design, Fiona hit gold with this dream team of fantastic florists.

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It’s rarely seen as fortunate to have thunderstorms and heavy clouds on your wedding day, however I couldn’t help but feel as though the minimal sunlight allowed The Arches to come into it’s own as the building filled with the warm light glowing from a sea of pillar candles on the windowsills, and the fairly light canopies hanging from above.

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With a Groom called Asa it only seemed fitting to have the banqueting tables lined with fresh Acer, which couldn’t have looked more elegant than displayed amongst vintage brass candleholders with black taper candles.

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But it wasn’t just about style, elegance and atmosphere. As the day turned to night the vibe changed. With a glitter ball hanging above The Arches beautiful Yorkshire stone floor, and entertainment supplied by an outstanding DJ who happened to be a friend of Maddie and Asa’s, the party had well and truly begun!

Maddie and Asa: It was a pleasure getting to know you both and seeing the vision of your wedding day come to life, however it was an even greater pleasure witnessing the love between the two of you. Your wedding was only the beginning of your adventure; the real fun has only just begun…

Love Abi xx

Supplier Details:
Venue: Weddings at The Arches at Dean Clough
Planning & Coordination: Mode for….
Catering: Eat Me-Drink Me
Floristry: Firenza Flowers – Floral Designer (with assistance from Moss & Stone Floral Design and Fox & Thorn – Floral Design)
Official Photographer: Melia Melia Photography
Tables: All Things Borrowed
Cake: Neighbourhood Bakes
Bridal Gown: Eliza Jane Howell

A Supplier’s Guide to Wedding Planning

So, you’ve just got engaged (YAY!), and you’re over the moon excited about

a) the prospect of being married to your lovely fella; and

b) planning THE best day of your life!

But hang on – you only get one shot at this, and you want to do it right. You want it to be amazing, and whether you’re the first of your friends to tie the knot or you’ve spent the last few years eating cake and toasting the happy couple every weekend in July for your besties, any and all advice on how to plan your wedding would be gratefully received!

So what do the professionals say? We spoke with a few of our friends within the wedding industry to establish the top tips they’ve discovered over the many years they’ve worked on weddings and events – take a read and take note…

“Your day, your way”

In the early stages it’s really crucial to establish what’s important to you as a couple. It’s hard to tune opinions out, but the most important opinion is yours. Jo, owner of White Rose Cake Design, advises you should “Have whatever you want, not what parents/friends/etc think you should have. Your day, your way”. “Here here” Jo – we couldn’t agree more! You will never regret creating a day catered specifically for you and your other half, but you might just find you regret compromising on what you love in order to people please family and friends.

Similarly, Louise of Fox Tail Photography suggests “Not to follow traditions just because that’s what everyone else does and expects.” If you hate the idea of slow dancing in front of all your friends and family then why do it? Just because something is traditional doesn’t mean it’s a necessity! Mix things up and do as you wish – mosh out to heavy metal, shake your thing to a bit of Beyonce, or (shock horror!) don’t do a first dance at all! Replace traditions that you’re not comfortable with with something more unique or tailored to the two of you as a couple.

Many hands make light work

We’ve all heard the phrase ‘Bride Tribe’ being thrown around with regards to the squad of bridesmaids and friends surrounding and supporting the Bride before the big day, but what about the Bride tribe behind the scenes?! Your suppliers are ready and waiting to help you out and any wedding industry professional worth their salt will want the best for the couples they are privileged to work for. Claire, owner of Sweet Sugar Sixpence recommends you should “Trust your suppliers and ask them for recommendations – a team of suppliers that know and support each other will always give you the best wedding!”

The wedding industry is quite a close knit community. We’re all willing to make suggestions and recommendations of suppliers we believe are suited to you. We don’t take recommendations lightly though – we know our suggestions reflect on us and so we’d never recommend anyone we think our clients would either not get along with or who we wouldn’t trust to do an amazing job!

In a similar vein, I would always suggest lightening the work load by accepting the help of anyone offering it! DIY is great, but so is delegation. Brides and Grooms are always so much more relaxed when they let friends, family and suppliers share the work load rather than trying to do everything on their own. Anything that can relieve the stress of planning such an important day is worth doing, and realistically, what’s the worst that can happen if you pass over a little control? Even if the decorations are the wrong colour, you didn’t make enough favours, or the homemade wedding cake collapses, it’s about the marriage you’re entering into with the person you love – that’s the main thing!

A variation on a theme

When it comes to styling we’re all guilty of creating extensive Pinterest boards filled with images of the ‘perfect’ wedding. But if every wedding was a recreation of those beautiful images, then they’d all be a carbon copy of the rest! Stylist and stationer Suzanne, owner of Suzanne Oddy Design, recommends you “Tap into your stylist’s creativity. They’ve seen the same things as you on Pinterest. Share your ideas with them and watch them grow and develop into something unique to you and your venue.” No one wants a copy and paste wedding. So why not take those images you’ve found, show them to your suppliers, and trust their knowledge and judgement as they help you develop the idea!

Stay savvy!

When you sign on the dotted line to secure a date with your venue you assume it will look on your wedding day as it did when you initially visited for a viewing. However, this isn’t necessarily the case! Venues, as with any business, are always looking to develop and improve, and sometimes this will include changing the aesthetic of the venue. Lucy, commercial director of Mix & Twist Bartending suggests you “check if they are planning any work to the building/area before your wedding, or if prices are likely to change and by what percentage if they do.” Unwanted surprises can be easily avoided, and although you might feel the venue has a duty to inform you of any cosmetic changes, if it’s not in the fine print then they may not. Make sure the venue you saw and fell in love with is the venue you’ll be saying ‘I Do’ in on the big day!

Quite frankly us wedding industry professionals could talk all day about the things we’ve learnt along the way and the advice we’d love to give to each and every one of you. The advice above really is just the tip of the iceberg. But we’ll close with a top tip from Mode for… Events’ very own Managing Director, Tabby, who advises you should “Enjoy the whole process and stay relaxed and stress free” – some would say that hiring a wedding planner might help with that…

Abi xxx

PS: If you want to go DIY for your wedding, remember we offer a DIY Consulting Service, so you can hire us for a couple of hours to coach you in how to create and manage your own amazing wedding, giving you inside tips and hints.

A Little Tropical Fun at The Arches

At Mode for… Events one of our most frequently spoken top tips has always been “Don’t plan your wedding day around the weather.” The weather should always act as the icing on the cake of a wedding, it should never be dependant on the sun shining gloriously or a crisp layer of white snow creating a picture-perfect image!

At Mode for… Events one of our most frequently spoken top tips has always been “Don’t plan your wedding day around the weather.” The weather should always act as the icing on the cake of a wedding, it should never be dependant on the sun shining gloriously or a crisp layer of white snow creating a picture-perfect image!

However, it can often feel serendipitous when the perfect weather for the style of the event happens to occur…

On the 26th May we opened the doors to The Arches for the wedding of Erin and Jordan and raised a glass to both their marriage and to the hottest and most beautiful day of the year so far! With the theme of the wedding being set as ‘tropical and brightly coloured,’ it was an easy brief to meet with regards to beautiful florals and greenery. Mode for…Event’s own styling featured a mixture of splendidly colourful flowers including sweet Williams complimented by vivid greenery such as ivy, eucalyptus and a sprinkling of moss. As an out of the ordinary tropical touch the banqueting tables also featured gold  sea creatures lovingly hand decorated by the groom. As temperatures soared to a balmy 27 degrees, you could definitely forgive guests for briefly confusing Yorkshire with the tropics while sat in our courtyard catching the sun and sipping ice cold drinks!

Tabby was in her element creating beautiful arrangements with the most vivid of flowers. As a request from Erin she used striking Ranunculus with a threaded finish for the bridal party’s buttonholes, with the addition of a variety of Lego pieces for the children’s buttonholes. The Lego pieces added a fantastically fun element to the buttonholes and allowed the suited and booted toddlers to have a bit of fun!

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Erin and Jordan had aimed to have a fun and relaxed day to mimic both their character and their relationship. We think it’s fair to say that all involved would agree that they by far exceeded their initial brief, and blew their guests away with the additional detail they went into to assure all guests had an amazing day. From glitter face painting supplied by ‘Wish Upon a Sparkle’, to fantastic live music supplied by ‘Bare Brass Band,’ from flamingo topped naked cakes supplied by ‘Sweet Sugar Sixpence’ to our favourite VW camper van photobooth, Herman, supplied by ‘The Volkswagen Wedding Co.’ guests were entertained at every stage throughout the day! Plus, two ‘Arches firsts’ as we even welcomed a dance troop (featuring Erin’s Aunty) who kicked started the party in excellent fashion and a doggy ring bearer called Jack (the family’ Border Terrier) who also acted as Chief Videographer with a Go-Pro camera strapped to him (and he did an awesome job!).

Here’s to Erin and Jordan – may their marriage be as fun as their wedding, always entertaining, and with plenty of sunshine!

Love Abi xxx

Get the Look:

Venue – The Arches @ Dean Clough

Wedding Planning & on the day Coordination – Mode for…Events

Styling & Floristry – Mode for…Events

Food – Eat Me – Drink Me

Cake – Sweet Sugar Sixpence

Meringues – The Meringue Girls

Photographers – The Twins

Photobooth – VW Wedding Co.

Live Music – Bare Brass Band

Glitter Face Paint – Wish Upon a Sparkle

Tables – All Things Borrowed

 

 

 

Stairway to a Perfect Wedding – Brooke & Arron, April 2017, The Arches @ Dean Clough

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For me, an empty space is a bit like a playground. The only thing an empty space can be limited by is a lack of imagination. However, not everyone has the ability to look at an empty space and realise that the possibilities are endless, and that with a little hard work and TLC you can create anything you want!

Working as the in-house coordinators at The Arches @ Dean Clough, myself and Tabby often have the privilege of watching a couple fall in love with the venue, and when we saw this moment with Brooke and Arron (who married in April), we also witness their minds beginning to race with ideas on how they could use the ample space and beautiful industrial backdrop The Arches offers to create the vision they had for their wedding day.

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You could tell that throughout Brooke and Arron’s planning they were thinking of how they could create a wedding like no other their guests had attended. There was nothing that this beautiful couple hadn’t thought of – the detail they went into was superb, and their guests LOVED it! I think the most touching of their decorative features was the ‘Stairway to Heaven’, which featured images of loved ones who were no longer with them. I think it’s safe to say they’ll have made everyone watching very proud that day!

However, for those of you who know the Mode for…Events Team, you’ll know that the key to our hearts is always food! They kept their wedding both fun and on trend with special features such as the increasingly popular ‘donut wall’ and the timeless cheese board as a late night snack. Not to mention the beautiful menu for the day created by our in house catering team, consisting of: Chicken Liver Paté served with Rustic Bread and Spiced Apple Chutney, slow cooked Featherblade of Beef with Mashed Potato and a delicious Glazed Lemon Tart with Clotted Cream and Summer Berries.

Alongside Herman the Volkswagen campervan photo booth (from The Volkswagen Wedding Co), Arron and Brooke also created their own photobooth using beautifully painted door frames and a basket filled to the brim with props!

With well over 150 candles featuring in the décor for the day, the venue really came alive as the sun went down and the guests lined the dancefloor with sparklers, perfectly framing Brooke and Arron’s first dance to The Courteeners “Take Over The World”.

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From both myself and Tabby, along with the team at The Arches, we’d like to say a massive congratulations to Brooke and Arron. It was an honour to have been involved in their wedding and we’re so happy that they’re now beginning married life together!

Abigayle xx

 

A Sun Shining Festival Affair

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The sun shone beautifully in early April and it was out to stay for the wedding of Anna and Mark at Hargate Hall on 8th April. What more could you need for a festival inspired wedding in the middle of the Peak District for the most fantastic couple and their party loving friends?

But this was a wedding with a difference as Anna and Mark had legally married two years before in Gretna Green when the couple discovered they were pregnant with their super awesome son Zeph; so this was the party to end all parties which they had always planned….and my, what a party it was!

It was late 2016 when Anna & Mark contacted us at Mode for…Events as a recommended catering and coordination supplier at our favourite Hargate Hall and they came to visit us at home for a meal and chat through all things ‘Hargate Weddings.’ It was so great to get to know Anna and Mark and little Zeph (who is the most amazing little guy!) and soon we were on hand to not only supply some fabulous food, but to also help plan and coordinate the whole wedding, including design, styling and all the floristry, with bouquets, buttonholes and much more.

Anna wanted lots of colour and fun to be evident and with a brief of colourful lantern canopied ceilings and festoon lights, Tabby got to work planning the big event. There was colour everywhere with giant paper lantern instalments in the marquee with ‘floating bottles’ with single stems of blooms and the tables were filled with different bottles and vases of Spring blooms.

In the main house, we created a canopied ceiling of paper lanterns (all with individual LED bulbs) and festoon lights and hanging coloured bottles up the staircase with Spring blooms and fireplace was trimmed with a range of different brightly coloured flowers.

The bridal and bridesmaid bouquets reflected the fun, relaxed, colourful nature of the day but also worked well with the pastel pink hue of the bridesmaid dresses. In terms of fashion, the whole bridal party looked immaculate and full of style and grace, Mark complete with his feather adorned top hat and son Zeph looked like the most handsome trendy little guy and a heartbreaker!

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As Anna and Mark were already legally married, the ceremony was a truly personal event led by ‘Uncle Bill’ complete with his anvil in a nod to the Gretna Green tradition. The ceremony was full of love, laughter and fun before guests emerged into the sunshine for drinks, canapés and photos with photographer Steven Rooney Photography (plus his wife created an awesome photobooth in the evening! What a super talented couple).

Next it was time to head along the lantern lined path to the marquee for speeches and a relaxed meal of Antipasti sharing boards and Red Pepper Pesto stuffed Chicken with Dauphinoise Potatoes and green beans. The weather was so fabulous it seemed a shame to stay indoors so we then served dessert on the terrace in the sunshine with sharing boards of lemon and chocolate tarts. Every crumb of food went…it was a triumph!

With hot tubs and slip and slides there was plenty to keep people occupied but these guests were all party goers, so with the biggest festival ready sound system you’ve ever seen at Hargate, it was time to party, party, party….in fact, when Simon and I returned at 9am the next day to pack-up, guests were still partying! Oh, what a night!! There night time fun was accompanied by some simple perfect grazing food of pork pie cake, pies and a cheese tower.

This was such a fun wedding party and we have loved every minute of working with Anna, Mark and Zeph and so proud of everything we created from planning to coordination, food and styling, plus some lovely flowery fun. Congratulations Mr & Mrs & Master Sekree from all of us at Mode for…Events.

Love Tabby xxx